friendship

I had a conversation with my daughter about second chances and if she forgives a certain friend, that doesn't mean she will ever be best friends again.  Maybe one day - maybe never.  My journey with forgiveness has really come in handy for such a time as this.  

So we talked and H said that, if she forgives this girl, she will "tolerate" her.  Those were her words.  H doesn't ever want to go over to her house to play or for sleepovers but she wouldn't mind if they sat together with their mutual friends over lunch at school.  

Last night at chuch H went up to this girl and said that she has decided to tolerate her.  The girl said that she's wanted to say something but she was afaid H wouldn't agree and she said her parents were pushing her to never be friends with our daughter again.  They hugged and talked stuff over a little bit.  Hannah is being very cautious because she doesn't want to be hurt again.  

It's sad and I mourn their friendship and what it used to be but I rejoice in seeing H strengthening new friendships.  As her parents, we want her to make healthy choices in friends.  Middle school is a tough time.  Hormones, changes, friends change etc.  I think this is a great time for middle schoolers to learn about  making friends, choosing friends, standing up for yourself, and taking "no crap from nobody!"  (Cool Runnings is such a great movie!)

I'm proud of our daughter for having such a kind and gentle heart.  She is so genuine and caring.  H told me that her devotions have all been on friendship "for some reason".  I said that maybe God is trying to show her or teach her something and when you're hearing similar messages and themes it's good to listen up and see if it's of God or not.  For a girl who's struggled with the bigness and greatness of God, she is hearing and seeing God work in her heart and life!  It's amazing!  Praise God!